geekConfusion for men over plastic surgery
April 1st 2008 01:04
In these modern days of plastic surgery and all manner of beauty treatments from Botox to blazing lasers, it's not easy for people to know if your looks are natural or if you have opted for enhancing measures.
A few weeks ago, a guy asked me if I "had anything done" to my body and face.
"No, what makes you ask?" I nervously responded, not sure if it was a good thing to be asked if you've had plastic surgery.
"Oh, I know lots of girls who have implants, Botox, stuff like that," he matter-of-factly stated. Then I realised that he was only asking me whether I had any work done because frankly he needed a straight up answer rather than trying to figure it out for himself.
I guess it's hard for guys to work these things out, especially say if you have only had minor enhancements. I mean, any guy can ascertain breast implants because they look very different to real breasts, but the less obvious treatments may be harder for them to notice...like getting your lips juiced up with Botox.
If the guy has only just met you and you went for a gentle lip treatment then how is he to know that your lips really are smaller. And can we place these enhancements in the same boat as say lipstick...I mean red lips are so sexy and they enahce your lips so why should Botox lip injections be any different?
I'm arguing both points only to sort of make sense of it to myself. Deep down, though, I do think a lot of guys want to see the real you...the features that are all yours without embellishment because this is what true intimacy always leads to...seeing the person as they are - without makeup, enhancements, additions, and magic tricks.
Someone who loves you will always be able to see you for what you are, but I think that plastic surgery just makes it a little trickier for that person to peel away the illusion. Make-up comes off, so in the morning you know what you're dealing with. Plastic surgery is different because it always manifests something about you, which I think makes it a very serious thing when it comes to choosing what you have done to your body. I'm not talking about corrective plastic surgery either because this is a God-send for people who have been in accidents or in fires or who have problems or disfigurements they want corrected etc. I'm referring to enhancement-based plastic surgery like going from bra cup size B to cup size DD.
Once you have plastic surgery, it says something about you - about your looks and also about your choices in life. It's not good or bad per se. Just like wearing too much makeup is not good or bad but it does say something about you as a person.
If I had had plastic surgery and answered "yes" to the guy's question, how would I have felt? Would I feel proud about it? Would I feel like a fake? I don't know because I haven't thought about it deeply but they are questions I'd ask myself if was to decide to have plastic surgery. Having not had any surgery, I know that I felt true to myself and the guy was able to see the real me. This made me feel happy.
A few weeks ago, a guy asked me if I "had anything done" to my body and face.
"No, what makes you ask?" I nervously responded, not sure if it was a good thing to be asked if you've had plastic surgery.
"Oh, I know lots of girls who have implants, Botox, stuff like that," he matter-of-factly stated. Then I realised that he was only asking me whether I had any work done because frankly he needed a straight up answer rather than trying to figure it out for himself.
I guess it's hard for guys to work these things out, especially say if you have only had minor enhancements. I mean, any guy can ascertain breast implants because they look very different to real breasts, but the less obvious treatments may be harder for them to notice...like getting your lips juiced up with Botox.
If the guy has only just met you and you went for a gentle lip treatment then how is he to know that your lips really are smaller. And can we place these enhancements in the same boat as say lipstick...I mean red lips are so sexy and they enahce your lips so why should Botox lip injections be any different?
I'm arguing both points only to sort of make sense of it to myself. Deep down, though, I do think a lot of guys want to see the real you...the features that are all yours without embellishment because this is what true intimacy always leads to...seeing the person as they are - without makeup, enhancements, additions, and magic tricks.
Someone who loves you will always be able to see you for what you are, but I think that plastic surgery just makes it a little trickier for that person to peel away the illusion. Make-up comes off, so in the morning you know what you're dealing with. Plastic surgery is different because it always manifests something about you, which I think makes it a very serious thing when it comes to choosing what you have done to your body. I'm not talking about corrective plastic surgery either because this is a God-send for people who have been in accidents or in fires or who have problems or disfigurements they want corrected etc. I'm referring to enhancement-based plastic surgery like going from bra cup size B to cup size DD.
Once you have plastic surgery, it says something about you - about your looks and also about your choices in life. It's not good or bad per se. Just like wearing too much makeup is not good or bad but it does say something about you as a person.
If I had had plastic surgery and answered "yes" to the guy's question, how would I have felt? Would I feel proud about it? Would I feel like a fake? I don't know because I haven't thought about it deeply but they are questions I'd ask myself if was to decide to have plastic surgery. Having not had any surgery, I know that I felt true to myself and the guy was able to see the real me. This made me feel happy.
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